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Already Failing at my New Job

by Megyn

What do I do when I think I am failing at my new job? What makes it worse is my boss is a good friend. I value our friendship and don't want to disappoint him after he went to bat to get me hired here.

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Apr 27, 2010
Already Failing at New Job
by: Michael Petras

It's important that you communicate openly with your boss about how you feel, even if he is your friend.

I would approach him and ask if you can meet with him in private for 15-20 minutes. If he gives you the brush off, tell him it's important and it won't take long.

Tell him you value your friendship and appreciate his influence in getting you this job. Share with him your desire to do your best in this position, but you need more training and direction. Ask for his help.

Tell him you are willing to come in early, work late, and do whatever it takes to excel in the position. Your goal is to lift his burdens and get things done.

I think you might be expecting way too much from yourself after only 2 months on the job. Every job has a learning curve. Also, part of your boss's responsibility is to train you. It's not realistic to give you a key position in the organization without any direction or mentoring.

You mentioned your boss has way too much on his plate. Sounds like he's struggling himself with his management duties. A good manager must be available to his people to support, train, and solve problems. He needs to step up and help you succeed.

You have every right to politely approach him and ask for his direction and help. I'm sure this is stressful for you, but it will be even more stressful if you continue to let it go. I suggest you not look for another job until after you've talked to your boss. Then give him some time to respond.

If nothing changes after 90 days, quietly start looking for another job. All the best.


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